Friday, December 19, 2014

What Men Should Wear on Dates

Picking out the right outfit for a date can be tricky. You don't want to overdress and go too fancy, but you do not want to go too casual either. If it is your first date with someone, you want to make a good first impression.

Depending on where the venue of your date is, matters. Dining at a local restaurant, your attire does not have to be super fancy. Nice jeans and a button up shirt would do. That outfit shows that you care enough to look nice for your date, but aren't trying to hard.

If going somewhere such as a symphony, this is where you need to get fancy. Black slacks and a collared dress shirt will look really nice. I would also recommend a suit jacket to tie everything together. This will show your date that you don't mind dressing up and look forward to spending the night with her.

There are things to avoid when picking out an outfit. If you are going to wear jeans, there better not be any holes! Jeans with holes are fine for painting a house or working on a car, but not for a date. Show respect for your date and throw on some nice jeans. Also, avoid t-shirts. We know you love your Red Sox t-shirt, but it is not appropriate date attire.

Now most of those things I've mentioned are for new or progressing relationships. For more of the long-term couples a t-shirt may be okay if going to the movies or something casual, but it's always nice to show your woman that you still take pride in how you dress when you go out with her.

Women like to feel special. So to make her feel special get dressed up and take her out! Not saying you have to do this every time you go out, but every once in a while, get dressed up and go out for fun.

As always please comment, share and let us know what you'd like to hear next!

-Tiffani L

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

First Date Conversations

We all can be nervous on a first date and can be at a loss of what to talk about. Some may ramble on about nonsense, where as others can be so nervous that they don't say a word. Both of these scenarios are very avoidable.

First, when talking about a certain topic, such as what do you like to do for fun, ask open ended questions.  Questions like how did you get in to that activity, should continue the conversation and hopefully that will develop into more knowledge of the other person. I mean that's what a first date is all about right?

Another thing to remember is to keep the conversation double-sided. It is sometimes hard for some people to get into a conversation, but try and keep an eye out for this behavior. If your date is sitting there listening and not participating in the conversation, try and get them involved.

On a date you are there to get to know the other person so talking about yourself the whole time may not be very helpful to you. When saying something about yourself, try and end what your saying with a question about them. An example would be: I have two dogs that I really love, but they are always getting into things, how do you feel about animals? That statement first says something about yourself, but then turns it over to the other person to take a hold of the conversation.

If you get one of those people that are very short with their answers and then don't ask a question back, the most you can do is try to keep the conversation going until you find a subject that really gets them talking. If you don't find that magic topic and the other person is not trying to join the conversation, they may not be worth going on another date with.

There are also things that definitely should not be shared on a first date. Unless the other person asks, do not talk about your exes. This can sometimes lead the other person thinking that you are not quite over your ex. Even if the other person does ask, there are still boundaries that you need to uphold. First do not trash that other person, no matter how bad it was. This can sometimes make yourself look bad, depending on what you say. Try and keep it to a minimal.

Another thing people don't like to hear is complaining or whining. If you don't like something or something upsets you, try and explain it in a casual way. An example would be if your order something you don't like, don't make a scene. Say something like oh I tried something new at least! Turn a negative into a positive.

Of course there are other things that you shouldn't mention on a first date, but just think if you don't want to hear about it, don't talk about it.

As always please comment, share and let us know what you'd like to hear next!

-Tiffani L

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone

We stick to certain habits we have because its normal and its safe. A lot of people stick to their routine because they are afraid of what might happen if that changes. This can be anything from setting the alarm right before you go to bed, to always ordering chicken fingers at every single restaurant you go to. Switch up your routine! It can be fun to try things in a different order or try new things all together.

Switching it up is great advice for anyone in a long-term relationship and even in a new relationship. Others like to see that you are willing to try new things and branch out from regular activities. It can be exciting when your significant other plans something that you would not have thought of before.

Dating is an out of your comfort zone experience anyway so why not go big and go on or plan a date that you would not normally think of doing. Life is all about experiencing all that you can experience, so put yourself out there and you won't be disappointed.

If you are having trouble with dating and are not quite sure how to put yourself out there, hire a matchmaker. Matchmakers are there to help you find someone and it can never hurt to have a little help every now and then. And again this is a new experience and it may open your eyes to incredible people.

There is excitement in doing something new. It can also seem nerve-racking but once you do it, you may realize that you should have done that a while ago! Branching out and trying new things puts yourself out there. Sure you're not in your safe zone, but you can't stay in that zone forever.

So next time instead of ordering chicken fingers, try ordering something from a different section of the menu, it might open your mind to other things you still need to try.

As always, please comment, share and let me know what you'd like to hear next!

-Tiffani L

Try new things

Omaha may not seem like the most exciting city to do things in at times, however if you are looking to go on a date, there are some great restaurants and activities you CAN do in this city. If you're looking for activities to do in the area besides grabbing something to eat, things like the zoo, or a nature walk around Chalco Hills may be a great idea. Of course sometimes weather can get in the way of doing the outdoor activities, but seeing a movie or hitting an indoor ice rink may be a great way to kick the bad weather blues. 

The most important thing to remember about doing certain activities, make sure that of course the people on the date have a mutual liking of the activity that you are participating in, other wise it will not be fun for either of you. This also goes with picking certain restaurants, make sure both parties are satisfied with the food venue and atmosphere. 

People in Omaha may think that they have tried all the restaurants before, especially because there seems to be a lot of franchise restaurants in Omaha, however there are  many local restaurants that have a great atmosphere and more importantly, great food. 
Instead of going to the same restaurants every date you have, branch out try something new and it may become a new favorite place. 

Getting out of your comfort zone is something everyone should try every now and then. This also lets other people know that you are willing to try new things and you may end up surprising yourself in how adventurous you can be. 

As always please comment, share and let us know what you would like to hear next!

-Tiffani L

Trivia Night!

In early December, Omaha love hosted a game night at Brewsky's on 156th. I have to say that it was so much fun! First, Brewsky's has trivia night every Wednesday night and it is definitely a good time. We decided to put together a group for singles to meet and enjoy the company of other singles and thought trivia night would be the perfect way to bond.

We had two different teams that were put together based on how many people showed up. We had about 20 to 25 people attend the event. After the teams were split into two, the trivia began. Some questions seemed to be pretty tough, however we had some people bring their A game and they were killing it.

Even if you are not a member of Omaha love, most of the events we put together are for anybody to enjoy. These get togethers are for people to meet people they have never met before and get aquatinted in a social gathering instead of one on one. Now don't get me wrong, one on ones can be fun, however they can also be more nerve racking than a group event.

We post our events in several different places, which hopefully get a lot of exposure to those who want to come and participate. The websites we currently post on are Facebook, Meet Up and of course our website

So if you have yet to attend an event with us, be sure to look out four the next ones coming in the New Year. You may end up finding the one or making some really good friends! As always please comment, share and let us know what you'd like to hear next!

-Tiffani L

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Don't Judge a Book by its Cover

Everyone likes certain things in a partner. Someone tall, or someone with blue eyes can be something that we say is on our "list", but we don't really get to know someone if we do not go deeper than the appearance and only go off of what we want and see.

Now of course not everybody is going to change and judging people by their appearance is something that happens with out us thinking sometimes. But what if you were on the other end of someone's critique. It doesn't feel that good when you are the one to be turned down by someone, because by your appearance, you are not what they are looking for.

Letting someone go based on their appearance not only hurts the person you are judging, but it hurts yourself as well. That person could end up being the one or may be a great new friend, you never know. Don't knock it, till you try it!

At Omaha Love, you can see pictures of a person before you select wither or not you'd like to go on a date with someone. We tell our clients to not just look at the picture, because let's be honest pictures just do not do some people justice. Give them a chance, you never know what someone is like until you get to speak with the person and truly figure out who they are.

So this is what we recommend. Do not judge somebody based upon what they look like, get to know them before you reject someone. More than likely you will end making a really good connection either as a friend or a partner. 

As always please comment, share and let us know what you want to hear next!

-Tiffani L

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Why is a Matchmaking Service Beneficial?

The definition of a matchmaker: one who finds compatibility between two individuals to hopefully result in a long-term relationship or marriage. Now that seems pretty simple. A matchmaking service can be and is very personalized. Think of it as a friend setting you up with one of their friends that you have never met before. Matchmakers just want the best for you and that is what we do at Omaha Love. Some people seem to be very skeptical on getting a matchmaker or signing up for a local dating service. It really isn't as scary as it seems.

Now a days it can seem hard to meet someone just casually by going to a bar or out with friends. It is not as easy as it used to be. Also by joining a service like Omaha Love, you gain exposure to people you probably would have never met before and find a connection with them. We also host events that expose you to other members who are going through the same process and are looking for the same things. Sometimes theses events can be more casual than just going on dates. 

Now being a matchmaker is not always the easiest either, there can be and is a lot of trail and error. Of course we may not be able to find your perfect match on the first date, some people expect that that is going to happen, but lets be real, it's not. It takes a little bit of time to find out what you do and do not like in a significant other. 

Matchmakers will have you write down what you want and what you like, but people with your likes and wants may not be exactly what works for you, shocker I know. When going out with someone your views or your interests can and will change. Now everybody has those must haves or deal breakers and that is normal, but you never know what you're going to compromise, for someone that you like. What matchmakers are looking for is compatibility in the same interests. Not all likes and dislikes have line up perfectly to be a good match. Have you ever heard opposites attract? 

Omaha Love has had many successful relationships and will continue to have them with people who are willing to try something new. Matchmakers are not a scary thing, they are people too, just trying to help you on your journey. 

As always please share, comment, and let us know what you think!

-Tiffani L

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Oh the Fun of Dating!

Many of us have had our share of dating and know what we do and don't like. However those likes and dislikes are different for everyone. Some people love that you blow your nose into your napkin at dinner and let's just say, other's would prefer that you don't. Knowing what to and what not to do on a date may be helpful to some. Nobody has all the answers, but every once in a while some advice can help your dating/love life.

What would you rather not see on a date or what annoys you on a date? Most of the time the things that you can't stand are the ones that you need to make sure that you are not doing on a date. There is and can be a long list of things that people should or should not do on a date. Having your cellphone out on a date if you're having dinner or appetizers somewhere, can come off very rude and uninterested.

To most people, men and women, having your phone out sends a nonverbal message that you care more about what is on your phone screen rather than the lovely person in front of you. Put the electronics away! Seriously, if you can't go without your phone for an hour or so, we need to have an intervention. With your phone in your face, how are you supposed to get to know the person, who could possibly be "the one", at all? Oh that's right you won't, so put it down. Other things that could or maybe distracting to yourself on a date, should be put away or left at home. Give your date the attention they deserve.

Everybody loves posting pictures of what they are doing, or posting statuses to let people know how they are being active. However this should be limited when you are just getting to know the person. You maybe very interested in this person that you have been on one date with. The second time that you both go out, you decide to take pictures with your date. Make sure that they are okay with this. No one wants to embarrass the other and say don't take a picture of me. That basically says I don't want to be associated with you quite yet. So to avoid anybody feeling embarrassed or uncomfortable, ask them to get mutual consent, this will show respect to the other person.

There are also other things that should not be discussed or done on a first date or when getting to know someone, that were not mentioned, but basically use common sense when getting to know someone. If you don't want to hear or see something from someone else, do not do it yourself. As always comment, share, and let us know what you'd like to hear next!

-Tiffani L

About Us

Omaha Love Matchmaking is the only locally owned and operated matchmaking service in the area, serving singles throughout Nebraska and Iowa. It is a very unique service, personalized to each individual and their dating goals. 
Courtney Quinlan founded Omaha Love in 2009 after seeing a need for a fun, safe way for local singles to meet. Omaha Love has been responsible for dozens of marriages and engagements, plus many more long term relationships since it was founded. 
Omaha love also hosts events from trivia night to speed dating and so much more. It gives local singles the ability to meet people in the area and have a good time while doing so. 
We will be discussing all the fun topics that come along with dating and meeting new people. Please share, comment if you have questions and let us know what you think. We value you and your opinion!

-Tiffani L